The other day I was talking to my friend, whose going through a difficult time right now and she told me the one thing that would make her happy is to feel loved by someone who loves her more than anything else in the world. This got me thinking about love in relation to unconditional love, the difference between the two and what it means to love someone unconditionally.
So, naturally I consulted Dictionary.com, just for a basic understanding of how the world generally defines unconditional love. Heres what I came up with; unconditional love means: “affection with no limits or conditions; complete love.”
I agree with this definition, its solid, but I think theres more to it. I think loving someone without limits is much easier said than done, and I think it involves more compromises than most people are willing to make. I also think its difficult to say without conditions, because if you really love someone and want the best for them, then I think you are allowed room to push and prode so they get there.
I also think first and foremost that you have to love your self ‘unconditionally’ before you can expect anyone else to feel the same. I know its cheesy, but how can someone love you without conditions if you dont like who you are.
Isn’t that funny. We expect and demand someone to give us what we are not willing to give. Unconditional love. If we expect that from someone to make us feel safe and loved, wanted and desired, don’t we have to understand what it is? Don’t we have to feel it for ourselves before we can accept or expect anyone else to give it to us? Unconditional love: loving without limitations, conditions, or reservations. If we don’t provide that for ourselves, what is our point of reference to measure the love that is to fulfill our lives. How would we know what we are searching for or what we expect someone to give to us? How do we express to someone what we need?
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